For most families, summer holidays mean fun, freedom, and time together. But for many SEND families, summer brings something very different: disruption, anxiety, exhaustion—and survival mode.
At AskEllie, we’ve heard from hundreds of parents who dread the six-week break. Not because they don’t love their children, but because the lack of routine, support, and specialist provision leaves them stranded.
Why Summer Can Be So Hard for Our Children
🔁 Loss of routine – Children who rely on structure can quickly become dysregulated. 🧠 Increased anxiety – New places, loud events, and social pressure can be overwhelming. ⛔ Lack of accessible activities – So many options aren’t inclusive or suitable for children with additional needs. 🛑 Sensory overload – Beaches, theme parks, soft play centres… great for some, unbearable for others.
And let’s not forget: not every child has friends to see, siblings to play with, or the capacity to join in group activities.
Why It’s Hard for Parents Too
😓 No break – The school day may be difficult, but it’s still a few hours of respite. Summer can mean 24/7 care. 💰 Increased costs – Childcare, one-to-one sessions, accessible trips—all add up. 🚫 Judgment – When you cancel plans, avoid events, or need to leave early. 🧱 Service shutdowns – No CAMHS, no social workers, no EHCP progress until September.
It’s not just the heat that’s suffocating. It’s the sense of being completely alone.
How You Can Get Through It
✅ Lower the bar – Not every day needs to be filled with activities. Rest is productive. ✅ Create a loose routine – Even a simple visual schedule can help reduce anxiety. ✅ Prepare in advance – Use social stories, photos, and countdowns for any trips or changes. ✅ Reach out – Some charities run summer support programs. Facebook groups can also be lifelines. ✅ Carve out five minutes for you – A hot drink, a deep breath, a scroll through memes. You matter too.
And Remember…
If you’re not doing Insta-worthy days out… that’s okay.
If your summer looks like TV, snacks, meltdowns, and surviving… that’s still valid.
If your child is safe, loved, and gets through the day—you’ve done enough.
Come see us at AskEllie.co.uk for more support, guides, and real talk from families who get it. You’re not alone. Not this summer. Not ever.
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